Making it past a first date with someone is really exciting. That means that someone saw something special enough in you that was worth pursuing. It means you didn’t scare them away, you didn’t smell bad, and you were probably kind of funny. A first date is typically full of jitters and nerves. People aren’t truly themselves during them. By the time the second and third date roll around, it’s time to loosen up a little and share some more details about yourself. Here are five things to talk about on your second and third date.
1.) Where Do You See Yourself in Five Years?
A great ice-breaker question is “where do you see yourself in five years?” When you ask someone this, you’re leaving it open to them to share whatever they’re comfortable with sharing. You’re not asking anything invasive or pushing any sensitive topics. Instead, you’re asking them where do they see themselves? This way, you can see if their goals align with where your goals and where you see yourself in the future. It’s an easy way to see if two futures are compatible.
2.) Important Family Values?
Nobody wants to talk about family and kids too early on. It’s a topic that can put stress on a couple, especially those who are new to dating. It can also freak someone out, especially if a woman seems too pushy on the topic. There are a few ways to approach this subject without being too forward. You should ask the other person about their family and what family values they find important. This gives you an idea if they’re looking to live a child-free lifestyle for a while or if they’re looking to start a family because that’s what’s important to them.
3.) Do You Like Dogs?
One funny and lighthearted question you can ask your date is “do you like dogs?” This is a great question to ask because a lot of couples adopt dogs as one of the first steps of commitment in a relationship. If you love dogs and he or she is allergic, this might be a deal breaker.
4.) What are Your Career Objectives?
Most people genuinely like talking about their career. When you ask this question, it gives them an opportunity to share a bit about what they do and where they hope their career will take them. This is also a great time to see if you guys are a match because this can make or break a career. Some people have jobs where they will work all hours of the night and constantly be on call. Some people have jobs where they need to travel. These are all important things that should be discussed early on.
5.) Share Your Most Embarrassing Moment
If you want to start your second date off with a few laughs and less pressure, ask each other to share their most embarrassing moment. This gives you a true glimpse of a person’s sense of humor. It also lets you see if a person can laugh at themselves which is important. Everybody has a most embarrassing moment, and this is a great way for two people to find common ground.
Overall, second and third dates are truly when you get to know a person. That’s because you’ve gotten past all the awkward small talk. You can now ask each other questions that or more intimate or personal like “What do you enjoy in sensual moments? Have you ever followed a Sex guide?”. After the third date, you should have a better idea on whether or not you want to pursue something with someone. These questions will let you guys know if you’re compatible. The last thing you want to do is waste someone else’s time if you’re looking for something light and fun, and they’re looking for something long-term.